Let me preface this post by saying that I am proud of what I have accomplished as a mother. I know I'm a good mother, I know that I love my son more than anything in the world, and I'm pretty sure that he feels the same way about me.
I have a very large list of blogs that I read on a fairly regular basis. There are those that I read every day, and there are those that I head to visit once a week or so. But there are a fair number of blogs on my list that make me feel...well...inadequate. Inadequate as a mother, and inadequate as an artist ("crafter" always sounds so Grade 6.)
These are the blogs that are full of beautiful pictures of perfectly groomed children, all in hand-made-by-mom frilly dresses, with links to their chalk-full virtual store of handmade goodies for you to buy. There is never any talk on these blogs about cranky children, teething, sleepless nights, poop in the bathtub, or any of the other joys of motherhood. Just happy children, moms making their livings off their sewing, and beautiful photo-shopped photos.
The thing is, it's not that these Moms have perfect lives. Their kids DO poop in the tub, they DO bite the other kids at daycare, and their sewing machines DO bung up and they have to start projects all over again. They just choose not to post about it on their blog. And from now on, I'm going to choose not to read them. Even though I know that what is there on the internet for me to read is not necessarily the entire story of their days, my immediate reaction is that I might just be doing something wrong - my house certainly isn't as clean as theirs, I have NO idea where they find the time to sew frilly dresses for everyone in family, and I am not making a living selling cute creations in my Etsy shop, however much I may want to be.
Deep down though, I know that I'm really doing it RIGHT. I AM working my rear end off to help support my family. I AM making beautiful things in my basement. I AM loving and raising my son to the best of my abilities. And I AM telling the whole truth about my experiences of motherhood - something that I feel deeply passionate about. I think too many people come to motherhood thinking that it's going to be all cuddles and christmas pageants and milk and cookies over heart to heart chats. It certainly IS those things, but there are a lot of other bits in between that don't always feel so glamorous. I wouldn't trade my motherhood for all the tea in china, but my hope is that what all of us "Tell-All Mommy Bloggers" are doing is helping the next wave of mothers (as well as all the other current mothers around us) be confident in their abilities, proud of their accomplishments, and not alone in their struggles. The "Super Mom" blogs can continue to be an inspiration as an artistic resource, but I now recognise them as that, rather than a motherhood ideal standard to live up to.
Wow....that's enough heavy handed chatter for the day!! How 'bout a little bit of cute to finish the day up nicely. Notice the dirty counter in the background - real life people, right here!!!P.S. Speaking of making beautiful things in my basement, tomorrow I plan to sew that pretty fabric into something fun....and maybe a little bit...cuddly!!